Doorways of Support and Inspiration:
Forgiveness

 

Forgiving Others Benefits Us   Peter and Helen Evans

Most of us have experienced a kind of non-local connection demonstration by
Bell's Theorem, which is essentially that everything in the universe is connected."
For instance, after thinking about a loved one, the phone rings and, guess who it is? Or we get the warm, fuzzy feeling of connection and smile a lot about it.

Most of us tend to do an unconscious "moral surgery" and acknowledge these
laws only for the warm, fuzzy moments. Yet, if these laws work in one
situation they must work in all situations. What do you suppose is
happening when you think of a person you hate? Or when you think they
should "get paid back" for the wrong they did?  Well, maybe the phone isn't
ringing (they don't like you either), but you're making a connection just
the same.

The energy we put out there to another just loops back on ourselves.  We've
all seen people who hold grudges, are constantly frustrated with others;
they look withered, empty, sapped of life force.  They are sapping
themselves through their thoughts of vengeance and hate.  Medieval
literature speaks about the "worm that eateth from within".  Pretty good
metaphor, for a grudge is a drain on us, on our life, on our vitality.

These 'negative' connections are what forgiveness is about.  We're not
letting the "bad guys" off the hook, we're letting ourselves off the hook.

We hear people acknowledging this connection when they say, "Just thinking
about them makes me feel wonderful", or conversely, "Just thinking about
them makes me sick." They don't realize they're doing it to themselves.

Their own thoughts are creating their feelings of wellness or sickness. 

What sort of thoughts do you suppose someone is thinking about "someone

who makes me feel sick"?

We also ask, "Is there anyone you'd like to forgive today?"  You don't have to "bless them with kindness". You don't have to put on the holy disguise of virtue or superiority; for pity or insincerity can loop back too.  Just choosing to "forget about them" will give you new pep and vitality... better than vitamins!

 

 

Peter and Helen Evans are on-line teachers, authors, workshop leaders,
sculptors and the founders of OneCenter "www.onecenter.org"